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innovativeschemes:

Mary Poppins: Stoping your incredibly sexist bullshit since 1964!

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I’ve always longed for some weird revival of Mary Poppins set in the late 60s. I mean, Burt is a total hippie. And that guy giggling his way to the ceiling? So fucking high.

(via vaov)

Hey, men-friends? Sometimes I have absolutely no idea why I put up with you.

I get that rape culture is not something most of you have to deal with, but it’s SUPER fucking shitty of you to react this way when we talk about our reality. Do you get that? If not, I’m telling you RIGHT NOW.

I managed to react to this half-jokingly in the moment, my mouth stuck in a grin of ‘friends talking in the sun’, my eyes narrowed in rage and genuine terror. I’ve felt so upset and angry about this ever since… And I guess I’ll talk about it on my blog, because FUCK IT, and because no, I won’t EVER stop talking about rape culture or feminism or the genuine fear that permeates the lives of my female and trans* friends.

If you can’t deal with hearing about the experience of your friends and family and, like, potential future dating partners on your tumblr dashboard, PLEASE, unfollow away!

Mansplanations are not merely a waste of women’s time or inane — but essentially harmless — babbling by oafish men; in actuality, mansplanations are an exercise in forced-perspective, where men force women to view the world the proper way, which under patriarchy means through men’s eyes. Mansplanations are thought-terminating — they are intended to and do actually stop women’s thought processes and women’s discussions in their tracks, where those processes and discussions are coming dangerously close to representing a female-centric reality, or where men’s interests are not being properly represented and catered to. The intent of mansplaining is to get women “back on track” to furthering the patriarchal agenda, and to undermine the true revolutionary potential of majority-female or female-only spaces where women are free to go to the ends of our thoughts, based on our shared reality and experiences and our hope for a better future, and our shared, sincere desire for the end of patriarchy and undermining of male power. Because of male entitlement, men are simply used to unearned deference on every issue (especially from women) and having sexual and other access to women and women’s spaces, including inside our discussions and in our heads.

The Gears: Mansplaining/Women’s perspective is wrong (via medusasseveredhead)(via wretchedoftheearth)(via erikawithac)

Mansplaining is dangerous and insidious and if you do it, or complain about women accusing you of it, you’re not a feminist.

(via erikawithac)

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methodistcoloringbook:

veggielezzyfemmie:

Arizona lawmakers gave final passage to three anti-abortion bills Tuesday afternoon, including one that declares pregnancies in the state begin two weeks before conception.

The Republican-controlled House of Representatives passed a bill to prohibit abortions after the 18th week of pregnancy; a bill to protect doctors from being sued if they withhold health information about a pregnancy that could cause a woman to seek an abortion; and a bill to mandate that how school curriculums address the topic of unwanted pregnancies.

All of the bills passed the Senate and now head to Gov. Jan Brewer (R) for her signature or veto.

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i have been calling this the handmaid’s tale law, and I CANNOT BELIEVE IT ACTUALLY HAPPENED

oh wait. yeah, i can.

I’m laughing, but it’s that kind of hysterical, almost crying laughter.

PREGNANCY BEGINS TWO WEEKS BEFORE CONCEPTION ARE YOU EVIL FUCKERS ACTUALLY FUCKING SERIOUS RIGHT NOW.

Even television, which is friendlier to the nonmale demographic than film, has been resistant.

The “nonmale demographic,” New York Times? What’s that, this “nonmale” of which you speak? Oh wait, that’s right. 50 percent of the rest of the population. Otherwise known as women.  (via joyengel)

Nonmaleism is the new feminism.

(via ryeisenberg)

NONMALE IS GROSS AND WEIRD AND NOT WHAT WE WERE EXPECTING! PANIC! PANIC! PAAAANIIIIIIC! WE WILL BECOME OBSOLETE AND THEY WILL SET OUR PENISES ON FIRE!!!!!

(via ryeisenberg)

I am sorry to reblog myself, but this is important and since it went up over the weekend I am not sure that everyone got a chance to see this. I want people to understand that they live in this rape culture, and I want them to understand how their behavior affects people.

Basically, QUIT BEING ASSHOLES, ASSHOLES.

healywu:

I have read this sentiment put more eloquently, but I am going to try to repackage here nonetheless because it keeps coming up in my life and I have only recently articulated it adequately in my own head.

This post is about privilege, specifically male privilege. The heart of the matter is when you don’t believe us when we tell you about our experience.

Recently my (white, male, cis-everything, liberal, sweet, caring) friend came up to me from behind and put his hands around my neck.

I turn to him and say Do not do that. You cannot do that. That scares me and is not appropriate.

He looks mad and offended.

I say What? That is how your actions made me feel.

He says Well I did not intend it to be mean or scary. I was being silly. You can’t be offended because my intention was good.

I say Your intention in this case is not important. My feelings were hurt and I felt violated. Respect me when I tell you that.

He says that my reaction and his intention matter equally and therefore I can’t be hurt.

No.

BELIEVE ME WHEN I TELL YOU THAT YOUR ACTIONS MAKE ME FEEL THIS WAY.

I am sorry that it hurts you to think you could make a woman feel unsafe. You do not think you are one of ‘those guys’ - a guy who is shitty to women. But you are coming from the place of privilege which allows you to navigate this world without the default fears of my gender. You need to trust me when I tell you this has happened. You need to swallow that anger you feel for being informed that you are in the wrong and direct it towards this rape culture. You need to apologize and focus on adjusting your future behavior.

PLEASE TRUST US WHEN WE TELL YOU THESE THINGS.

fuckyeahtng:

There was a period of time where I was almost getting indignant about the fact that both Marina and I had done fencing — I’ve done stage combat, karate, aikido, all sorts of things like that — and whenever there was anything to do that was action-oriented, it was always the male characters who were getting it. If there was ever a fight or something, Beverly was supposed to like, take a frying pan over someone’s head. And I thought, this is ridiculous. The female astronauts now know how to do everything that the male astronauts know how to do. And that’s the way it needs to be.

Gates McFadden on sexism in Star Trek

I WILL BE IN MY BUNK!

Seriously, what a fucking knock out she is, I love her.

(via lord-kitschener)

andthenitripped:

I’m not surprised that the DSK case was thrown out because the prosecution didn’t feel they could trust the victim. I’m not commenting on whether or not there was innocence or guilt. Actually, Emily Bazelon of Slate.com does a reasonable assessment of the whole thing here.

Cases like this one are difficult. Some aren’t as difficult. But the lingering fact in these stories (and others like them) is the giant fucking elephant in the room.

We live in a rape culture.

You don’t buy it?

Here’s an oversimplified example, but trust, I’m just getting started. Guys, when was the last time you yelled at a female friend for walking alone at night? Ok, now. When was the last time someone yelled at YOU for walking alone at night? It probably never really happens, right? The sentiment is this: Because we live in a rape culture, I am treated as a walking hole that needs to be protected at all times by men otherwise other, bad men will come and try to stick things in me.

Over and over again, the responsibility for not getting raped is placed on me because we live in a rape culture. We admonish women for running at night or taking the subway home by themselves after going out drinking ‘til 4 a.m. We make her call when she gets somewhere because her vagina has been unchaperoned for far too long. Because we live in a rape culture, I need to go above and beyond what is normal and acceptable “safe” behavior because otherwise, you know, rape.

Because we live in a rape culture, we only accept victims if they’re wide-eyed heroines. White. Virginal. Professional. College-educated. White. With parents who are married and live in the suburbs. White. No substance-abuse problems, ever. Also: white. Because we live in a rape culture, we only accept rape if these gentle souls get pulled into alleys and “ruined” by a stranger because he is sick, twisted and psychotic. This is the right way someone gets raped.

Because we live in a rape culture, I would be the perfect rape victim for all the aforementioned reasons. But I’ve had sex before in my life, so no dice. I’ve also told lies. And because of this rape culture, every sexual partner I’ve ever had would be trotted out in front of the court to discuss how easy/medium/difficult it was to get me in the sack. Every lie I’ve ever told would be dissected in order to discredit me.

Because we live in a rape culture, guys trying to “slip it in” (even after being told “no”) was an oft-told morning-after story among my group of college girlfriends — and not a single one of us ever considered it rape. No one wanted to be “dramatic about it” because girls cry rape all the time but it’s actually their own fault because who can blame the guy when you’re both already naked? Because we live in a rape culture, we believed these things.

And as such, because we live in a rape culture: YOU get to tell ME all the things I can do to prevent my own rape.

Because we live in a rape culture:

Instead of banning magazine advertisements that use gang-rape imagery to sell clothes or whatever — just tell me to wear pants.

Instead of demanding that our sports heroes not be rapists — just yell at me like my super does when he sees me with my running shoes on at 11 p.m.

Instead of not purchasing video games that let players beat up and murder sex workers — just insist feminists hate and ruin everything.

Instead of refusing to allow the media to use shitty terms like “gray rape” or “date rape” or “forcible sexual contact” — just instruct me on how to keep my drink with me at all times in a public place.

Instead of turning inward and educating ourselves and actively working to change perceptions and behaviors and societal norms — just blame and humiliate the woman who reports her rape and go through all the ways she brought this upon herself before acknowledging any evidence. If there is any evidence left.

Because we live in a rape culture, this is just the tip of the iceberg of what it means to live in a rape culture, but it’s too tiring/not fun/annoying/hysterical to call attention to the rest of it.

So I get how OUTRAGED we all are about DSK, the rape cops, etc. — but it’s stupid to blame the legal system because it’s just a symptom of the larger problem that is (say it with me now): we live in a rape culture.

And the sooner we fucking accept the way things are, the better and faster we can maybe make it better.

Read this.

I have read this sentiment put more eloquently, but I am going to try to repackage here nonetheless because it keeps coming up in my life and I have only recently articulated it adequately in my own head.

This post is about privilege, specifically male privilege. The heart of the matter is when you don’t believe us when we tell you about our experience.

Recently my (white, male, cis-everything, liberal, sweet, caring) friend came up to me from behind and put his hands around my neck.

I turn to him and say Do not do that. You cannot do that. That scares me and is not appropriate.

He looks mad and offended.

I say What? That is how your actions made me feel.

He says Well I did not intend it to be mean or scary. I was being silly. You can’t be offended because my intention was good.

I say Your intention in this case is not important. My feelings were hurt and I felt violated. Respect me when I tell you that.

He says that my reaction and his intention matter equally and therefore I can’t be hurt.

No.

BELIEVE ME WHEN I TELL YOU THAT YOUR ACTIONS MAKE ME FEEL THIS WAY.

I am sorry that it hurts you to think you could make a woman feel unsafe. You do not think you are one of ‘those guys’ - a guy who is shitty to women. But you are coming from the place of privilege which allows you to navigate this world without the default fears of my gender. You need to trust me when I tell you this has happened. You need to swallow that anger you feel for being informed that you are in the wrong and direct it towards this rape culture. You need to apologize and focus on adjusting your future behavior.

PLEASE TRUST US WHEN WE TELL YOU THESE THINGS.

Just finished up watching the season finales of the 4 of the 5 sitcoms I watch regularly. Now I am going to write about all 5 because that is what cool kids do on the rare Friday evenings when they don’t have to work, RIIIIIIGHT!?

I watched Modern Family last night and it was really great.  I am glad Phil didn’t ever fix the step - like every element of this show, that pattern is smart and solidly done.  Modern Family is basically a slightly less intellectual ‘Arrested Development’ with likable characters making it is easy to get invested in and care about.  I really like it, and I am so glad it turned out to be roughly 12 million percent better than its awful pre-season ad campaign led me to believe.  Also, Cameron is the best.  But please let them show physical affection next season, ABC.  That shit is weak.

Parks and Recreation was easily my favorite ‘new’ show of this year!  I must admit that I gave up on it halfway through the first season, in part because my DVR would never record it, and in part because it just didn’t work.  But I was totally wrong!  Honestly, Aziz’s pleas on his tumblr convinced me to give it another shot this season.  They finally got Leslie’s character right - they realized she couldn’t just be the female Michael Scott.  She is totally different, but serves similar functions.  She is excellent at her job, and has specific and intelligent beliefs, while also being enthusiastic and socially juvenile.  But we like her so much that we forgive her bluntness and occasional excessive honesty.  She’s also ambitious and a kickass feminist while being fun-loving and also hopeless optimistic.  It’s so fucking great to have a character like that on TV you guys!  And for the show, it was literally perfect.  Everything else can fall into place around her.  Andy and April falling for each other, while April grows up and slowly realizes that being cool and disengaged is the worst, and that passion and enthusiasm are geniunely fun… fuck yeah.  I love that shit.  I eat it up.  Being ‘cool’ and uninterested is the worst!  Ann has developed really well too, and now I believe that she and Leslie are best friends.  I get why they have each other in their lives.  Tom Haverford has remained pitch perfect - a bundle of irritating traits and habits in a real person, whose earnestness is endearing and forgives enough of his foibles (at least enough not to hate him).  Everyone hates Jerry and we love it.  Ron Swanson loves brunette women and breakfast foods, and is a strict Libertarian.  Character written!  Rob Lowe, in an interview, said that one of the writers told him that they envisioned ‘Parks & Rec’ as ‘West Wing’ if it was a comedy.  FUCK YEAH I AM ON BOARD WITH THAT!  That is my television dream come true!  Gah!  I am talking more about Parks than I intended, but it’s because I really loved that finale, and I am incredibly disappointed in NBC’s decision to retain it only as a mid-season show.  WTF?  I suspect that most NBC decisions have been made by some kind of beta Retardo Max software in the recent past.  Your best sitcom?  Really NBC?  Really?  Okay, NBCrapbucket!  Haha!  Ya burnt!

30 Rock: Remained fun and interesting while growing and hitting it’s stride even more.  I miss a bit of the frenetic, hopeless energy of the first season and half - I would like to see a bit more about the show, really.  I know, a comedian who wants to see more about the show production stuff.  I just think they have a great opportunity with this show to illustrate elements of Liz’s life through what she writes and what happens on the show.  Maybe that is asking too much.  Tracy Morgan is a fucking treasure and we are lucky to have him - and Tracy Jordan has genuinely grown this season.  How often does the wacky, mentally unbalanced character genuinely grow and change on a sitcom?  Never.  Well fucking done, 30 Rock.  I am often told by my comedy friends that they watch Liz Lemon and are like ‘That’s Katey’.  It is weird… to see someone that oddly similar (in some ways) to me.  I dunno.  I am not really sure how to articulate it, but I am aware how unusual it is for someone like to me to have a character I identify with that much on national television.  In conclusion, keep it up 30 Rock! I am intrigued and entertained by where the season has gone and am excited for the fall.  A few solid callbacks wouldn’t hurt either - something needs to be shut down or ya burnt’d, methinks.

The Office:  Honestly: I watched most of the season out of loyalty to those characters and to the insanely talented people I know on that cast.  Until about 3 episodes ago I was not at all into the show, and had to actually force myself to finish each episode.  Holly’s departure broke that show.  I’ve been watching the 3rd season on Netflix… HOLY SHIT THIS SHOW WAS AMAZING YOU GUYS.  The 6th season has been disappointing, but I have hope for it.  They gotta figure out what to do about Jim & Pam (show their honest progression into suburban parents? If they do anything else it will feel horrendously disingenuous, but they probably won’t) and figure out all the character’s new relationships with one another.  We need some strong character games.  Erin, Gabe and Ryan could all have more explicit games, and could interact with each other more.  Those moments could carry a lot.  Honestly, I don’t care about all the buyout, company shit.  Relationships.  That would help.  I don’t have a ton of confidence about season 7, but of course, I will keep watching.

Community:  Wow.  So… what in the fuck is in your dickhole with that finale?  The entire episode felt dissonant and awful - like someone described the premise to a bunch of suits and hack writers after the pilot and they wrote that.  Hated it.  Especially coming after the unadulterated brilliance of the Paintball episode.  I don’t know who directed it, but they clearly hadn’t watched a moment of the rest of the season.  Every shot was off.  Ugh, I feel like… betrayed.  Good luck winning this audience member back.  I feel really bad saying this because I really liked Community a lot.  Abed and Troy’s relationship was fucking awesome - so fun and weird and great.  The female characters were one dimensional but fine, and Joel McHale (like Bruce Willis before him) turns a bland, asshole and one note character into an interesting, funny person.  Community had a lot of potential, even though it always teetered on the edge of too self aware and not enough substance.  It was an impossible balance that they maintained for almost the whole season.  Real pity.

*The title of this post is dedicated to Adam Scott, newest cast member of Parks & Recreation (along with Rob Lowe), whose face I wanna kiss off cause he’s so damn cute!